Derailed by the Norovirus

It’s a bad day (and weekend) when the only person to get the virus in the house was ME.  No one else got it, no one else shared in my pain and all too well-known symptoms of this nasty and pointless virus that is living upon this Earth.  Really, what’s it’s purpose anyway?

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Got way too comfortable in my gut for my comfort!

I’m glad it’s gone now, still don’t have an appetite though.  Nothing got done this past weekend, was barely moving on Friday.  Sorry for the disconnect this weekend, however I’m better now and almost recovered.  Fingers crossed that no one yet has shown any symptoms that they caught what I suffered through.

Three Things Thursday – 05/04/2017

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Inspired by Nerd in the Brain

BRING THE HAPPY!

Daughter at Work

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It was National Bring Your Son or Daughter To Work Day last Thursday.  Naturally I brought the daughter with me to work so she could be bored to death all day and see just how boring my job really is.  Surprisingly though, she enjoyed herself and even brought a laptop so she could “work” on things like finding new backgrounds, researching her book battle authors and pretending to do what I do; stare at screens pretending to work 🙂

We Have Tomatoes

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The wife decided that we needed to try our hand again at growing things.  We’ve not had a good track record these last few years and it comes down to either not enough watering or too much watering.  I try to remember, but trying to figure out what she’s done things will typically get overwatered and drown.  This tomato plant is small, and has a lot of dirt under it with holes in the bottom of the pot, hopefully they won’t die and I’ll get fresh tomatoes later this year.  We planted Chocolate Mint and Basil plants as well along with some weeds (aka lettuce).

Todoist

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I don’t think this is the first time I’ve talked about this one, but I’ve come to love it again after a brief period of ignoring it’s reminders that I had crap overdue.  They recently updated it and the whole experience is so much more seamless across devices that it’s made it rather easy to remember to do things.  It’s only $30US or so per year and well worth the money if you need help remembering to do things when they need to actually be done.  Disclaimer, I’m not paid in any way for endorsing this application.

TTT Weekly Music Recommendation

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Fading Star

by Weaving The Fate

I’m ready for a vacation

The last few months I’ve become painfully aware of one truth that I had, for years, denied myself from believing. It’s the truth that unless something drastically changes in the lives of my family, we’re going to forever be owing money to other people. Mortgage loan servicers, credit card companies, auto financiers, utility companies, insurance companies, etc.. The list goes on and on and anyone living the “American Dream” is painfully aware of how difficult and out of reach that dream really is. I’m far from being uncomfortable right now, in fact, I think we’re living just inside our means as I’ve consistently said “No” more than I’ve said “Yes” for the last year since moving into our current home. The problem is that we’re in a home where we aren’t certain what has and has not been properly maintained and it seems we find out when its the most inconvenient. Murphy’s Law in full effect for our household. In the last year, we’ve repaired or replaced:

  • Main water line (inside the house)
  • Water softener
  • Hot water heater
  • Kitchen appliances
  • Front door
  • Garage doors and openers

We’ve also had the back yard fenced in with post & rail with green goat fence stapled to the inside. We really didn’t need a fence, but the dog was getting bolder in going after rabbits and would make it much farther into the field before deciding to listen to our screams to come back. She’s a good dog, but damn, that girl is determined to get a rabbit in her mouth. We paid cash for the fence, cash that I had saved up rather painfully for several months to establish a cushion. One bank statement a few months back that the wife looked at saw the money and was like “we have money, we’re getting a fence.” Who am I to argue. My back thanked me for not having to sleep on the sofa if I said anything other than “Yes.” I’ve since converted our statements to paperless and they’re emailed to my account now 🙂

The wife isn’t working through the summer, it’s school break time. We have very little cushion at this point and it’s started to irritate my normally pragmatic approach to finances. I should have held my ground firmer and explained what the savings were for, like the hidden problem that will cost a few hundred or more that we’re not aware of yet for example. I know the air conditioner is too small for the house and it’s only a matter of time before the thing overloads and burns out. Internet and air conditioning are two necessities that I rank higher than anything else in the household; only the mortgage is higher priority. She doesn’t get it and is rather impatient with the whole waiting to replace things aspect of having a house that wasn’t built to our specifications. I have sometimes questioned why we moved in the first place when a few changes could have made our previous house workable. Hindsight is a bitch.

I’ve made so many changes and cuts to our monthly budget with very little difference to show for it. Every time I think we’re backing away from the edge some unforseen repair or payment pushes me back to the edge again. The most depressing part about all of this is that I’m nursing pants, shirts, shoes and other items to their bitter end before breaking down and buying some new stuff. Not because I want to, but more because I know that the daughter needs them more than I do. That girl grew almost 2″ from November to now and she is in the same size shoe as my wife……the daughter is 10 by the way. I’m not growing that much and can handle a few stitch repairs to extend the life of a shirt, but she literally is growing out of her stuff every 6-9 months.

What to do, what to do. The summer is going to be really tight and with me doing all the finances, I’m the one that worries and bears the burden of making sure there’s a roof with utilities for us to live in. I may just have to swallow my disgust and start letting people know I’m doing computer work on the side again to bring in some extra cash. I can only take so many “I don’t know how that malware got there” excuses before I get cranky with people’s attitudes towards security, or lack thereof. I need a vacation.

Mystery Blogger Award

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Dacia of Britestfyrefly nominated me for the Mystery Blogger’s Award, and I thank her for doing so as I was in a rut as to what my topic today should be.  Here is her Mystery Blogger’s Award post if you’re interested in seeing her questions and answers.  I’ve been following her for a while now and I can’t recall if she followed me first or if I followed her first; it really doesn’t matter.  Something about her writing, how she presented herself, is what kept me following.  It didn’t hurt that we had similar interests and I think my sagely advice might have helped a little too 🙂

This award was originally created by Okoto Enigma and you can find her blog HERE.

As part of the award, I have to answer 5 questions she has asked of me.  First though, there are some rules.  It’s an honor to reciprocate this award, but there is a little more to it:

  1. Post the award/ image on your blog (see above)
  2. Thank whoever nominated you and give a link back to their blog.
  3. Mention the creator of the award and give a link back to their blog.
  4. Tell your readers three things about yourself.
  5. Nominate 10-20 deserving bloggers and notify your nominees by commenting on their blog
  6. Ask your nominees 5 questions of your choice; including one weird or funny question.
  7. Share a link to your best post.

Three things about me:

  1. I’ve lived in Pennsylvania since I was 4 years old.
  2. My blogging career spans more than two decades; 11 pen/paper, 10 online, last 5 at this blog site.
  3. Been married for 17 years and have a 10 year old daughter, who’s a handful at times and growing up way too fast.

Here are the questions Dacia posed to me:

  1. If your blog had a theme song, what would it be and why?

    The cover of “The Sound Of Silence” by Disturbed.  Although I’ve heard this already from Simon & Garfunkel a hundred times, it was something totally new after hearing it from Disturbed.  At various points of time in my life, I’ve connected with the lyrics of the song and being an introvert, it’s comforting in a way to listen to this and know that things will pass eventually and get better.  It’s a reminder that music can and does heal everything.

  2. What is your writing routine?  Do you have one?  Should you have one?  What would be your ideal writing life?

    This is four questions in one and is bending the rules slightly 😀  I tend to write when the mood strikes or there is something rolling around in my head that needs to be processed in a way that writing it out can solve.  The routine is random, so not really much of a routine, but I do average at least a few hours through the week to sit down and write.  At any given time, there are several drafts in-progress saved to my laptop.  I’m not sold on the rigid writing routine as anything creative tends to be random and when the mood strikes.  My ideal writing life would be a sound proof room, disconnected from everything, with the ability to write whenever I feel it necessary to do so without the worry of having to work and pay the bills.

  3. In the movie of your life, what actor could best portray you?

    Drew Carey, hands down.  I’m a geek and proud to be one too.  Drew is similar in build, appearance, and temperament.  With a few tweaks of his clothes and glasses, he would be a perfect actor to protray me.  The movie of course would be really boring and filled with lots of “processing” while sitting at computer.

  4. What are you currently reading?

    I actually don’t actively read despite the fact that I’ve read a lot of books.  I get into a groove every so often where I’ll rip through two or three books and then not pick one up for months.  I do read online news sites, blogs, and opinion sites on a daily basis though as I contribute to another blog focused on political opinion.  The link to that is in the sidebar.

  5. Describe the most trying time of your life?

    Hands down, high school.  It was the only time so far in my life where I felt completely lost and worthless to the world.  It took me more than a decade to get past the issues I pushed deep down before I dug them out and dealt with it in my adult life.  I’ve not attended or seen anyone from that time of my life and I doubt I ever will.  There is nothing from high school that I want to celebrate or even remember as people can be damagingly cruel to others.  I’ve since lived my life in a place of tolerance, respect, and understanding.

Here are the lucky 10 bloggers that I’ve bestowed this award on:

  1. Erika at DorkyMomDoodles
  2. John at The Ripening Wanderer
  3. Emily at Nerd In The Brain
  4. Deb at The Moster In Your Closet
  5. Juls at The Indecisive Eejit
  6. The Snail of Happiness
  7. Ally at The Spectacled Bean
  8. The Chatty Introvert
  9. In Search of It All
  10. Lobotero at In Saner Thought

Here are the questions I’ve asked of them:

  1. When did you start blogging and why?
  2. If you had one vehicle to puchase in your entire life, what would it be and why?
  3. Are you a citizen of more than one country?  Which ones?
  4. What is your favorite meal?
  5. If you could be anyone for a day, who would it be and why?

My best post:

By far, my best post and one of the most active with over 44 comments.  I’d never broken more than 20 on anything previous.  The post is titled The inauguration speech and is a break down of the speech Donald Trump gave on January 20th, 2017.  This was one of those posts that I was fired up about and need to process it through writing.

Weekend “Would You Rather?” 28

After playing an interesting round of “Would You Rather?” with the family, I thought it would be fun to get into the game of a weekly blog post.  Feel free to join in on your own blog and be sure to give an answer to the question of the week.

**I will keep these questions rated G**


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Would you rather have one year off at your current rate of pay

OR

Work your current job for a year at double your current pay with no time off?


Be sure to leave your answer (and justification) in the comments!

I would rather have one year off at my current rate of pay.  The reason is that I make a good living and have a lot of interests that I never have enough time for.  Consistently putting them aside to work doesn’t give me the work/life balance I wish I had.  A full year to explore things without having to worry about paying bills could give me the opportunity to flush out one of those interests into a new career.